Everyone experiences fear in their lives – whether in business or in our personal lives.
Today I want to share 3 tips about fear and how to handle it.
What is fear?
There are many different types of fear. Usually fear is of two kinds, broadly speaking. The first part of fear is the “real” kind of fear. Like you’re living in a war zone or there are tigers or lions and wildlife outside and you’re terrified of them and that you can be killed. It’s a very real thing.
But it’s safe to say, that’s not what fear is for most of us that we face every day.
What we’ve really, really faced is psychological fear. Physiological fear is a very real thing. It’s almost like you live in that state of high adrenaline, you’re fearful, your mind is going fuzzy, you can’t think and your thoughts are racing… and you don’t know what to do. Your feelings and emotions are mixed up with anxiety, and there’s fear and restlessness. Physically, you feel the heart pumping and the feeling that you are very, very tense.
So, what can you do about fear?
The main thing is to understand that psychological fear comes from thoughts. That’s right. A thought about a future that hasn’t happened yet. It’s nonexistent. A future that hasn’t happened yet and a state of anxiety.
When psychological fears come, it’s almost as if you are living that thing that you are afraid of. It could be a lack, a fear of something that you have, a lack of security like something is going to be taken away from you, or something else that you’re worrying about. That you’ve already created this mental image of the terrible things that are going to happen. And all human beings, we face that kind of fear.
How to handle your fears?
Initially you want to recognize that when fear is there, something very, very important for all of us, the only place that we feel safe and secure; That is being in the now. It’s gone. So, bring back to being in the now. Being present with your own Presence. And how do we do that? We breathe. Be consciously aware of your breath.
So you see, in the now, just now, take a deep breath. In and out.
Put your hand on your abdomen with one hand on your chest and you’re breathing in and breathing out. Focus all of your attention consciously on the breath. use abdominal breathing. When you breath in, your abdomen expands, and when you breathe out, your abdomen goes closer to the spine. So as you do that couple of breaths, you realize that when you are consciously focused on your breath, you cannot think those fearful thoughts.
So just for a break, the mind gives you a peace, like a rest. It gives you peace. And as you go into that energy of peace, more and more that you are consciously aware of your breath, you realize you are safe. And in that safety place, that place of safety, you suddenly have an insight about your problem that you couldn’t have a few minutes ago when you were so stressed out.
ACTION STEP: I invite all of you to try to think about your conscious breathing throughout the day. Like every few hours, every hour. In my case, I do it every hour. Take three deep breaths and just go in.
As you go deeper into the peaceful state when meditating, you realize it’s an energy field that’s always available to you. It’s called Presence. And when you’re in Presence, nothing can harm you, nothing can affect you. In fact, your mind is so rested that you have clarity for the next steps to do.
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